A Friend’s Perspective

Last night after lecturing, I had the opportunity to chat with a friend who has shown some romantic interest in me since June last year. We were discussing what my mentor and a few other close friends have told me about my work-a-holic approach to life and not making time for love. Not surprisingly, he totally agreed. He then gave me his perspective on my personality which was somewhat uncomfortable to hear. I think sometimes we get so caught up with our goals and doing the things that make us happy, that we hardly ever stop to think about how we are viewed by others. I’m not saying to constantly be worried about what people think about you but coming out of yourself ever so often can be a good thing. He highlighted some of my traits that were quite different from the average person here in Trinidad and Tobago and how those traits have made him uncomfortable and how it can make others feel that way at times.  Now it’s not that they’re necessarily bad traits, they’re just very different from the norm here in this country. He encouraged me to loosen up a bit, go out some more and leave some room for spontaneity. Now I understand all of what he’s saying but honestly, being very organised makes me happy. He also mentioned that some men can feel intimated by me and unfortunately, this is not the first time I’m hearing this, one of my mentors even mentioned it to me on Sunday. The conversation ended prematurely as it was approaching 10PM and I needed to leave the campus. I appreciated everything he said to me as I’ve heard most of it before and I know it’s coming from a good place. I’ll definitely focus on finding a balance between doing the things that contribute to the person I would like to become and taking my friends’ perspective into consideration.


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