Yesterday I wrote about John and how I distanced myself from him because of differing views. What I must also mention is that I started to adopt some of his characteristics that I myself did not like. Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. This relates to the law of averages, which is the theory that the result of any given situation will be the average of all outcomes. As a child I was always told to be mindful of my friends…”Birds of a feather flock together”. I wish this phrase was expounded upon to give a deeper meaning to me as a child but as I’m older with a bit more experience, I clearly understand what was being told to me. While I’ve heard many people claim they’re nothing like their friends, having the understanding I do now makes me smile whenever I hear those words uttered by another. It’s a natural human tendency to think we are better or at least make better decisions than those around us.
I am forever thankful to the Cosmic for giving me the level of awareness and consciousness to see myself adopting some of John’s qualities and for having the will power to decide to be different. Being on the receiving end of some of the things he did and talking to people who were hurt by him, helped me to realise how I could negatively affect others if I did not take the necessary steps to change. It’s so amazing that the very same qualities we may not like in someone may very well exist in us. While the habits I sought to change were not to the extent of John’s, with time, if neglected, could very well have gotten worse. To create the change I wanted to see in myself, involved a great deal of awareness, determination and most importantly, visualisation. I constantly visualised myself as the person I wanted to be. Visualisation mixed with auto-suggestion have really helped me become the person I am truly meant to be. Through my understanding of the law of averages, I have taken greater care when deciding who will be the five people I spend most of my time with.